Behind Every Good Man Is An Even Better Woman - I cringed typing that

I had some one remind me of that quote the other day when I mentioned my recent date with a lovely man that had me laughing until I cried. Want to read how my convo went? Read on, dear reader, read on...

"How was your date last night?" she asked rather disinterested.
"Oh it was fabulous. I finally met a man I can laugh with! I laughed so hard I was near tears. What a relief to go out with a man who can lighten up a bit" I explained jubilantly. I still had the post first date glow of happiness that occurs for me only once and on a biannual basis. Yep, it really is that rare for me.
"Wonderful. Do you think you'll see him again?" She asked as she sipped her half decaf, half regular coffee.
"Well, he's definitely going to call me."
"So, great! You'll have another date."
"Nah, it proved I can attract outgoing men but there'll be no follow up on this one." I said with assurance.
She looked up from the Sunday morning circular she was reading. Her eyes were squinted closed a bit as she responded, "Why not another date?"
"Well he's of the age where he should have his life figured out and he hasn't. He lives home, can barely make ends meet and doesn't, or should I say, hasn't made plans to better himself." I declared.
"Well you know, behind every good man is an even better woman." She said in a persuasive manner.

OK, that's the end of the dialogue. Let me begin by saying the above quote is a HUGE dating mistake women make. While the statement is absolutely true, it isn't true when you're finding love. Women constantly think that a man will better himself because he fell in love with you or is he in love with you. He will not. A man will not change or better himself unless he wants to. We're all like that right? You don't lose weight until you want to. You cannot and will not motivate him until he wants the change - for whatever his own reason is.

So let's rephrase shall we: Behind Every Good Man Is A Good Woman Who Saw From Day One That He Is A Good Man. He Appreciates Her Recognition That He's A Good Guy. Every Now And Again, He Will Become A Better Man Because Of Her Reverence. THE END!

So will I date a man who's still in the lost and found? No, because I cannot turn him into a better man.  Been there, tried that and no, it doesn't work. I want a man who found his way out of the lost and found and is on the path to a bright future. He's at the point where he's looking for a good woman to join him on his path. I look forward to the journey. Maybe we can take a detour or two because he loves me?