Tuesday, July 06, 2010

Remixed, Revised Rules to Live By -- Dating That Is!

Self Learned Rules I Now Live By:
  • Smile frequently
  • Laugh often
  • Avoid screening your date (ex: what do you do for work?, are you divorced? etc.)
  • Be your polished, best self
  • Eliminate generalizations. You're at dinner w/a human being. Leave the male v. female comments at home
  • Say what's on your mind when it's positive (ex: it's so cool that you appreciate fine dining too)
  • Compliment your friends and family and just leave out the negatives (he'll learn those on his own)
  • Give yourself time to listen
  • Allow him to talk about himself
  • You are a Christian - make sure your dates know and are comfortable with that
Flags:

  • Men who ask for lunch, coffee or drink dates (they can't commit, trust me. Been there, done that)
  • Men who take a long time to ask you out (Too many issues to name but let's start with this one...probably has confidence issues which will leach into your relationship)
  • Mixed signals (he either has a girl friend, isn't over a girl friend or doesn't know what he wants yet) -- all excellent reasons to stay away

REMEMBER, you only have one heart and it can only be broken a certain amount of times. Put all encounters with all people before Christ in prayer. Do not proceed if He doesn't clear it. Trust me on this one!

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