I've always been a person open to criticism. Or should I call it feedback? That's what we call it in the HR world. I digress but shouldn't. Last week I took a huge chance and posted my online dating profile in a public forum and welcomed feedback from male viewers. The responses were enlightening. A lot of good came of it. For one thing, I've learned men prefer to see a full body photo and then a head shot. It seems men fear a woman who posts just a head shot is fat! Hmpf! One viewer said the object of your headline and photo and is to increase "click ability". Flattering photos and a catchy screen name or headline will do the trick. Yep, you guessed it. The guys were right. Within several days of swapping my initial photo from a head shot to a full profile shot, I received emails from 5 men within my target market. Great!
Moving along to a more serious topic though. Most men felt my profile lacked pertinent details they wanted to know. I decided to experiment. I swapped the photos out and then left the profile "as is". Men responded with interest. When I added "softer" comments such as about my desire to be a nurturing mother with examples of how my own mother nurtured me, the quality of men improved. I delved deeper and added my desire to help neglected children and my hopes to one day be married. Yep, the men responded in turn.
What did this prove to me? It proved a couple things. Being "you" means revealing "you". My inner desires, sewn tightly to my heart, are the key to finding a great man. May we all grow into the men and women Christ desires us to be.
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