Don't you generally think men just have it better than women?

Well, I dunno about having it better. I think that depends upon perspective. I don't think men have any more options than women do when it comes to dating. I've turned down so many men who want to date me. I'm sure they were disappointed. They also do make sacrifices. My father worked very long hours throughout my childhood so I could get an education and my mother could stay at home. He paid a heavy price for that - he missed out on my childhood. He's not happy about that but it he did it for my good. I appreciate not having loans!

I have a friend who turned down a job with the air force b/c he hopes to get married and have children and feels he can't be a good father if he travels constantly. That decision nearly broke his heart, flying fighter jets was his life dream. My mother's friend spent 4 years nursing his sick wife until she died. He still is so heart broken he can't remarry. So in essence, perhaps men don't pore over relationship books but do we really need them? I mean, isn't Evan and anyone else just telling us what we could learn ourselves? So many men have told me a fundamental male belief, it goes something like this: I feel like I can get along with almost any woman and I could make it work. I think men say this b/c they recognize their weakness and know they have to change.

Are there jerks? Yep, I've dated them. But knock on any guy's door and they'll tell you the horrible women they've dated too. I think it's a question of meeting the right guy. At some point in time as women we decide what we want and refuse anything else. So we stop responding to the emails that "just don't do it for us", we don't return the text and eventually we only let the good guys in. I'm now sincere with the men I meet. I'm looking for a man who knows he's good. He must earn my heart. But the beauty of a man is he's built to earn things. The more you expect a man to earn it the higher he'll rise to the challenge. This is what I adore about men. Have you heard the song "when a man loves a woman?" That's a fav. of mine. Good guys really do stand out in the pouring rain and she really can't do any wrong. That's just my perspective of course.